Tuesday, July 10, 2007

No shit sherlock!

N finally came to the realization that we are getting married...preferably in the next year and a half. But that's how N is. I'll go on and on about something that needs to get done, or that is coming up, and he needs a certain amount of time for it to sink in. And then I walk in the door after a long day at work and he says "You know what, if we're getting married, we need to get on it." Oh, really? I didn't know that.

Good thing I'm aware of his needs.

So, we're thinking of going more traditional. And while I've always imagined, from the day I started planning my wedding when I was in the womb, of having bridesmaids, good friends standing by my side as I vow to love my husband forever, I think we might forgo that for our wedding. We are planning a more traditional Jewish wedding, and in a traditional Jewish wedding, there is no bridal party. Just the bride and groom. Not sure how I feel about this. Maybe we'll ask some friends to read something, or hold up the chuppah. Haven't figured this out yet.

Of course, I've been considering what I'm going to do about who will walk me down the aisle. Usually, it's both parents. But I'd like to have my mom and someone else by my side, to honor my father, so it will most likely be my cousin. He loved my father, he understood my father and he respected my father immensely. I mentioned it to him a few years ago at our cousin's wedding. Now I've got to dig up the courage to remind him of my request so long ago.

We haven't even decided where we are going to have it. We're contemplating between Charlottesville, NOVA and Baltimore. But one thing is for sure...it's not going to be a typical wedding. I just want a big party, commencing with the wedding ceremony. I am not sure I want a sit down dinner. I kinda just want a backyard party, with lots of drinks and music and some food so people don't get filthy drunk. But filthy drunk is also fine. Whatever works.


elizabeth said...

My sister had a completely amazing non-traditional-but-still-traditional wedding. No bridal party, but we all had little tasks, and all helped a lot in the creation of the wedding (like we all did the centerpieces together in the morning) Which is also great for the budget.
The big splurge was a photobooth-- which I can not possibly recommend enough! It was the highlight of the reception, and made for some wonderful photos and memories.

Anyway, if you want to talk about a fun but traditional and socially and budget conscious wedding, give me a holler.

Kristine said...

ooo- I was websurfing yesterday instead of focusing on torts and property for the bar, and I came across a pattern for a lace chuppah in the current Interweave Knits. Part of me wished that 1) I was Jewish so I could make and use it 2) that I had thought of that at least a year ago so I had time to knit it! I've been considering making a smaller version instead.

In terms of planning, you'll need to figure out a way to respond to people saying "You'll want X" or "It's not a wedding without X"
We're having a party, not a WEDDING, and it gets a little ridiculous when people realize you're just not that obsessive about your wedding- they get seriously upset.
Ignore them, have the wedding you want, and have a great time!

(I'm not bashing the photobooth idea, I think it sounds like fun)

elizabeth said...

I'm actually totally with you Kristine, people tend to take their wedding ideas very personally-- it can be stressful to deal with planning in large part because emotions run so high with everyone involved.

Incidentally, Sam, don't be afraid to ignore people, myself included. At least I can assure you that I won't take it personally.

Do what you want and love what you do! That is what is most important! Anyone who is anyone will be happy for you if you are happy-- don't forget it!

Zac said...